Are You Looking for Resolution to Problematic Lifelong Predictable and Habitual Behaviors?

Do you sometimes find yourself making similar decisions resulting in similar outcomes with consequences you wish you could escape but seem to keep following you?

Do people or situations cause you intense internal distress that negatively affect your life?

Do you wonder why you keep reacting the same unhelpful way to similar types of people or situations?

Do you sometimes think about ending your life over things that later on don’t feel like such a big deal?

Do you think that you should let things go but still feel like there is a hook in your gut that you just cannot let go of?

Do you find yourself feeling shameful about yourself because you think you should be reacting to events differently but can’t even figure out how to do so?

Do you feel like a fraud at work, at home, or socially?

Do you feel emotions so intensely that you wish you could jump out of your own skin?

Have you been to therapy for years and still not figured “it” out yet?

Do you feel like in order to be accepted by yourself or others you have to pretend to be someone other than you?

Do you find yourself faking who you are in order to feel loved by others?

Do you feel like no matter what you do you are not good enough in the eyes of others?

Do you get easily swept up in relationships only to destroy them?

Do you feel like others should change who and how they are so you can feel at peace with yourself?

Do you feel like you are on stage in your life pretending to be a character who really is not you?

Do you feel urges to cling to others only to repel them later on?

Do you feel destructive in your life without knowing why?

Do you notice that the older you get the more difficult you find it to cope with life’s challenges?

Does anger or rage control you at times as if you cannot regain control?

Do you avoid meeting or being around people for fear that they will judge you harshly?

Do you feel jealous of others who appear to have it all while it feels like you do not?

Do you feel like you’ve been confined in a box your whole life and desperately want to get out?

Does it feel like you are an object to be used by others, as if that’s your only value in the world?

Do you identify with any of the scenarios above? If so, let’s talk.

Psychotherapy isn’t about becoming someone you are not. It’s about becoming your Real Self for once.

I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist located in the Treasure Valley in beautiful Idaho.

Many types of therapy focus on identifying and reducing specific symptoms (anxiety, depression, anger, etc.) seen in the therapy room, whereas my approach focuses on the deeper structures within each client’s mind that cause these symptoms. It’s the difference between just feeling better and actually being better. We work through the ways in which your mind has been set up to think from birth about yourself, others, and the world. Therapy with me doesn’t grab, shove, twist, and pull, forcing you to think or feel how I think you should think or feel. We work by noticing the ways in which you guide yourself through life and noticing along the way how you help and hold yourself back from your life goals. Adverse symptoms you notice in your life result from not being aware of aspects of the mind, developed early in life, that motivate you to behave in ways that are not in your own true best interest. Your therapy progresses at your rate.

Therapy is never about the therapist. It’s about you, so you drive your therapy at your pace, enlisting my help to uncover blind spots about yourself - changing not knowing what you don’t know about yourself into lifelong awareness that removes internal blocks that keep you from enjoying life in a deeper sense. The key to your life improvement is not a recipe spelled out in a self-help book; it’s unique to your early life experiences and lifelong circumstances. You know you best - it’s just my job to help you see parts of yourself you can’t yet see. Most clients think they need someone or something else to change in order for their lives to improve. Actually, you already have everything you seek within you right now. It’s my job to help you see it. Then you are free from the ever elusive external object of completion to your life that you are forever chasing and frustratingly never able to acquire.

I primarily use an object relations/psychodynamic therapeutic approach.

My Christian faith guides my life while informing my therapy as much or as little as each client prefers. My role is to serve my clients in ways that best benefit them.

Ryan is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist serving the Eagle, Meridian, Star, Boise, Middleton, Kuna, Nampa, and Caldwell areas in Idaho’s Treasure Valley.

Ryan maintains his CA LMFT license as well, working with California residents via telehealth.